3 Fibs and a Truth About Sex
Help for married pastors when talking to single adults.
Lauren Winner
April 1, 2005
Something is going wrong in Christian communities. We say that we care very much about premarital chastity, and yet anecdotes and studies alike show that many Christians, even in churches that teach sex is only for marriage, have premarital sex.
The statistics on unmarried Christians and sex are both hard to come by and not wholly reliable—people tend to fudge when talking to pollsters, presenting their lives as they wish they were, not as they actually are, so the single Christian talking to a pollster may pretty things up a bit. Still, a few snapshots from the field:
• Three surveys of single Christian adults conducted in the 1990s determined that approximately one third were virgins—meaning, of course, that two thirds were not.
• In 2003, researchers at Northern Kentucky University showed that 61 percent of students who signed sexual-abstinence commitment cards broke their pledges.
We hear that "sexual experiences don't ever go away totally. They live on, like ghosts, in all future relationships, and can do real damage there."
• Of the remaining 49 percent who kept their pledges, 55 percent said they'd had oral sex, and did not consider oral sex to be sex.
And yet, pastors (and Christian writers) spend a lot of time talking about sex. Indeed, the cultured despisers of Christianity often accuse us of being obsessed with regulating people's sex lives!
So what is going on?
There are, of course, many reasons that trying-to-be-faithful, believing Christians engage in sexual sin. (The number one reason is the Fall.) But I think pastors and writers and other Christian leaders bear part of the blame. We mean well. We desperately want to counter the decidedly un-Christian messages our surrounding society sends ...
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