Jilted Again
Candidating means you gotta handle rejection.
Bob Myers
October 1, 2003
I've been here before and I don't like it. Rejection hurts. Recently, I spent three months interviewing for a position—three months of answering philosophical questions, submitting videos and recordings, meeting on conference calls, and finally making an on-site visit. When things didn't work out, I felt like the groom in a Julia Roberts movie. Left at the altar. I needed a recovery plan. My first reaction was to rant. Twenty years ago my wife would have told me to go into computers, but now even that option doesn't look so good. She held her tongue and listened. God bless her. Next I went to a quiet place. I'm a worship pastor, so I turned to worship. Worship is the first step in positively dealing with pain. Job did it right when he lost everything. "Job tore his robe and shaved his head." (Is that an ancient form of pity-rant?) "Then he fell to the ground in worship" (Job 1:20). Of course, Job voiced his complaint to God later in the story. But that's part of worship, too. Worship is more than just praise, thanksgiving, and adoration. Worship is engaging God with an honest heart. The Psalms are full of lament and complaint. "How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me? How long must I wrestle with my thoughts and every day have sorrow in my heart?" (Ps. 13). Worship with the Word and an honest heart brings perspective. It reminds us who we are and affirms His lordship over our life. The psalms of lament end with statements of praise and trust in God. Worship births hope for the future. For me, a vision for life without my "dream ministry" began to emerge. With some perspective and some hope, here are some intentional steps I took. 1. Ask what went wrong. It's humbling and may hurt a ...
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